Dr.
Lior Shochat,
a senior organizational consultant and a professor at Ben Gurion
University School of Business and at the Department of Political
Science at Haifa University:
"Dr. Orenia
Yaffe-Yanai's new book starts with a moving personal
invitation to join the author on her life's quest in order to learn
a thing or two about our own lives...
Here and there we meet people whose work is a memorial and
whose lives are a desperate quest and longing for a loved departed
parent. Orenia Yanai's book
belongs in this category; Although the message is extremely
personal, it evokes experiences that we have all been through at one
point or another...
Thanks to the willingness to be exposed without fearing the
vulnerability, and thanks to the message of healing and recovery
(also known as "career healing"), this is a book that stirs empathy
and creates optimism...
According to Yaffe-Yanai, our professional choices are
influenced not only in more-or-less direct ways by the choices,
preferences and opportunities that our parents have made or missed,
but also indirectly by the frustrations of parents who did not
realize themselves. Such frustrations seep into our adult lives and
haunt us for many years after our parents are long
gone...
Gently, patiently and
considerately, Orenia Yanai leads
us from one personal story to the next, all the while weaving the
lessons and insights into the
storytelling...
A
must!"
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Yocha Yovel,
author of "Obstacle Course" ("Maslul
Michsholim"):
"Self-help shelves are full of books about married life,
parenting, health, happiness, self-discovery, energies and recovery.
But Mrs. Yaffe-Yanai seems to be
the first Israeli therapist to tackle a forsaken yet essential
issue, which to many � including myself � is also urgent: choosing
one's professional career and making it happen. So much of our
happiness depends on our professional
life.
The author is an expert in her field and has years of
experience in individual therapy and career
consulting.
The book offers its readers many useful insights. It is hard
to tell on what page each reader will find that special link to his
or her own life but it is sure to
happen!
I am now compiling the key lessons from the book into a
guide, and hope to make good use of
it."
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Dr. Varda Milbauer,
psychologist, Human Resources Magazine ("Mashabei Enosh", February
2000):
"Many of us strive to strike that successful combination
between our professional and personal life... Modern life demarcates
separate realms for career and for love. Wherever work is concerned,
people are required to be very rational and matter-of-factly and
choose their path according to qualifications and
opportunities...
Orenia
Yaffe-Yanai's
book, CAREER YOUR PASSION, addresses this interface. One's
professional choices and preferences cannot be seen in isolation
from the context of one's personality and family setting, she says.
Yaffe-Yanai illustrates this with stories of people who at
some point in their life felt they had reached a dead-end in their
career, and felt tremendous frustration and distress. Some of these
individuals even had serious crises both in their professional and
in their personal lives.
The consulting process described in the book is about giving
the symptoms reported by these individuals an entirely different
interpretation than that which they themselves attribute to these
symptoms. With much empathy and respect to her clients, the author
leads them on a voyage back in time to earlier periods in their
lives at which some of their perceptions were fixed � perceptions of
themselves, others and the world around them. These perceptions
influence the choices they make in their professional life, albeit
subconsciously.
The main
premise, which is the leitmotif connecting all the stories in the
book, is that in addition to our individual genetic code, we also
have a unique psychogenetic makeup. The atmosphere and way of life
that we absorb and learn in our parents' home influence our
personality. This is why a deeper, conscious understanding of our
familial background and all the experiences, values and positive and
negative choices that we have absorbed, allows us to set our life in
order. Once we can distinguish between those things that are part of
our psychogenetic makeup and those that constitute our unique,
individual self � we have the freedom to
choose.
Unlike
many self-guidance books about careers, this book is not pushy, nor
is it a list of "dos" and "don'ts". Rather, it respects the hard
work and commitment that is required to make a change. The author
floats possibilities, makes proposals and suggests ideas, and her
clients � and readers � can choose which if any to adopt. The
language of the book, the many questions presented in it and the
imagery used, lead the reader to understand that this is a quest, at
times arduous, for self realization and discovering one's unique
individuality.
The book
successfully explains how imperative it is to connect between the
various components in our lives, and how important it is to have a
comprehensive outlook that stresses the growth of the special powers
that each of us has in the professional road that we take. Such
growth is made possible thanks to the connection that is made
between feelings that we have in the here and now and the more
broader context of our personal and family background. The author's
optimism and belief that there is a light at the end of the tunnel
really comes through. There is no age or stage in life at which we
can take the easy road and say �it's too late for
us�."
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Varda Raziel-Jacont,
psychologist and journalist:
"Feeling stuck? A new book will help
you discover why you feel stuck in your career or personal life and
offer practical solutions...
Dr. Yaffe-Yanai's
book evokes empathy and trust thanks to the personal note in which
it is written, including a confession that the author herself was
for many years "stuck"...
The book tries to help people understand what it is that
keeps them in dull jobs, uninteresting professions and cyclic
patterns of frustration and disappointment. It shows how people ruin
their family lives because they blame their frustrations on the
wrong thing...
The book is an inspiration to embark on the quest of
self-discovery."
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